by Adam Kolosik
In youth ministry the discipleship process often gets complicated. We get a student in the door, tell an emotional story for them to raise their hand and accept Jesus into their heart, get them to read the book of John, introduce them to a new believers class, tell them they need to serve, get them to raise money for Speed the Light, and tell them to bring friends. Next we expect them to obey every rule and commandment in the Bible. Now we have a fully devoted follower of Jesus. Or we’ve created a super busy student that does exactly what we tell them to do instead of thinking on their own.
We, meaning pastors, leaders and other students workers, add so much work to this process that we completely take the student out of their environment, a world they are called to reach. Along the way, we have also taken some of their identity by telling them how they need to live this out instead of helping them be empowered to find the answers on their own. This creates a false maturity of self and of Christian faith, one that is unlikely to remain once their youth group support system is taken out of the equation at graduation.
Maybe we need to cut out some of the programming and simplify the process. I think the process Jesus used for discipleship was must simpler than what is our normal; we can simplify his process into three steps: Follow. Believe. Obey.
Follow:
Jesus first told his disciples to follow him. In fact, his first interaction with them was a question, asking them to just be around him. One way we can do this in youth ministry is by getting students in the door and building relationship with them. By us living out a life following Jesus, we let them see the example instead of simply telling them how to do it.
Believe:
At some point in the process the disciples began to believe Jesus was who he claimed to be. It was at different points for each disciple, and similarly it will look different for each student we lead. In Matthew 16, Peter shares that he believes Jesus but Thomas still didn’t believe until he saw the holes in Jesus’ hands. Belief in Christ is not always about raising a hand or praying a prayer. Belief in Christ is a process created and sustained through relationship and the stewarding of God-ordained moments, both necessary in order for students to grasp the love he has for them. It is also important to note that each student is different, and the biggest moments for each of them will come at different times.
Obey:
After the disciples followed Christ for some time and started to actually believe what he taught them, they started to live out the life he was calling them to live: the life of sacrifice to the greater calling of Jesus. This is where our students start to actually live out what they’re learning through relationship, worship, and teaching, and when they start to act like disciples of Christ. At this point in the process the students want to give to Speed the Light, they want to serve in their church, communities and abroad, and they are hungry and yearn to learn more about their Savior through reading the Bible.
If we can break the discipleship process into these easy three categories, it can help leaders meet our students exactly where they are. Instead of throwing in a bunch of programming, let’s bring it back to the basics of being relational and intentional — a simple yet so effective process that was first created by Jesus himself.
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